A Personal Approach

divorce-family-problemsIn the organizing field, there is a term which is used to describe individuals who were organized, to a greater or lesser extent, until a certain event occurred and they became overwhelmed and disorganized. It is referred to as situational disorganization. It may occur with the birth of a baby, the move to a new home, start of a new job, taking responsibility for an elderly parent, death of a loved one or as is often the case divorce.

The process of divorce, the paperwork which is required and the change in circumstances can be totally daunting and overwhelming. I know this from personal experience.

For many people, there are not only your emotions to worry about, but also, those of your children. One client of mine was divorced after 20 years of marriage and two children. Having been married for most of her adult life, she had not managed the money and knew nothing about setting a budget. She was so depressed and distraught over the paperwork required, the financials and the life upheaval that she was having a hard time just functioning day to day. She found my website, but hesitated to call me – embarrassed by her inability to “get it together” and her inability to function as she had previously. She needed help with creating a basic budget, getting her paperwork under control and sorting and purging items throughout the home to prepare to put it on the market for sale. She had lost hope.

After meeting with her and assessing the situation, I set up a plan of action. After taking the time to understand her feelings, together we defined her needs and goals. Despite her fears I assured her it was a step by step process that I would take her through. As we accomplished her goals and gained control of her environment, her personal emotional state improved. She had systems with which to organize her new life. We sorted, purged and packed away certain belongings. The house was put on the market and eventually sold. She moved to an apartment for a time and a few months later, I helped to move and settle her into a new home. Obviously, divorce and the emotional upheaval it creates affect everyone differently. The nature of divorce itself is often so overwhelming that people don’t really know what to do let alone where to begin. I have gone through a divorce myself, however, and though daunting managed to weather the storm. Since then, I have helped numerous men and women through equally challenging chapters of their own lives and I can do the same for you.